Are you wondering what happened to that goal you had of exercising every day before the summer?
There’s a reason gym enrollments go up in January and then again in May when everyone realizes summer is coming up: motivation kicks in… but over time, your visits to the gym slow down. Before long, you’re back to saying, “oh my gosh, why can’t I find time to work out?” Does this sound familiar?
Maybe you feel like it’s because you’re busy, tired, distracted by your kids, or all of the above, but the real reason is that you don’t commit to exercising.
If you truly want to be stronger, fitter, or healthier, you’ve got to stay committed.
I know sometimes that seems impossible, so today I’m joined by my personal trainer, Vanessa Gregor, to talk about how to stay committed to your fitness.
Vanessa Gregor, also known as Nez, is the owner of Studio Fit’nez. She hires independent personal trainers that make Studio Fit’nez what it is: a private personal training studio in the heart of Fishers that goes above and beyond when it comes to helping people live healthy, pain-free, and fit lives.
Vanessa enriches her clients’ lives through the teachings of proper form and technique, overcoming weaknesses, and finding joy in the process.
Born and raised in The Netherlands, she grew up extremely active by default. It wasn’t until she moved to the USA almost 20 years ago that she realized how her role would be more reactive than proactive, meaning that she would help clients find their way back to fitness and health before moving forward in it. She has grown to appreciate and love the role of teaching people that life and fitness are one big balancing act.
In Today’s Episode We Discuss:
- How your physical health affects your mental health
- Using fitness as an outlet
- How to think of goals
- Allowing your goals to change
- Setting realistic expectations for yourself
- The most common things that hold people back from their goals
- What it really means to be ready
- Why failing is good
We get in our own way when it comes to creating habits around anything. I hope this episode has inspired you to get out of your own way and has shown you how to do it.
Remember, there’s always an opportunity to level up and there’s no better time than now!
If you want to learn more about how coaching can help you create habits around your own physical fitness and exercise routine, among other things, reach out to me and schedule a call at www.andrealiebross.com/consult. It’s one of my favorite topics, so I would love to chat with you about it.
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Speaker1: [00:00:08] You are listening to the Time to level up podcast, I'm your host business life coach, Andrea Libros. I helped women in business commit to their own growth personally and professionally. Each week I'll bring you strategies to help you think clearly, gain confidence, make your time productive, turn every obstacle into an opportunity, and finally overcome the overwhelmed so that you can make money and manage life. Let's create a plan so you have a profitable business, successful career, and best of all, live with unapologetic ambition. Are you ready to drop the drama and figure out the how? In order to reach your goals, you're in the right place. It's time to level up.
[00:00:57] Let's do this.
Speaker2: [00:01:04] Hello, my friends, and welcome back to The Time to Level Up podcast, you may be listening to this in the middle of the summer and you may be asking yourself what happened to that goal I had of exercising every day? Well, there is a reason why Jim Enrollment's go up at the start of the new year. There is a reason why Jim Enrollment's maybe go up in May when we realize we're all going to have to put a swimsuit on in a few months. People realize that they might have overindulged and they decide or sometimes become panicked that it is time for them to get back in shape. And I don't know about you, but also as we age, I think we realize. Huh, I better get my act together, however. Sometimes within a few weeks or months, those visits to the gym or those every other day, peloton classes get pared down to maybe once or twice a week, maybe once a month. And other things start to take precedence because you feel like you are busy. And then before long, I hear people say, oh, my gosh, why can't I just find the time to workout? And I ask, well, why can't you and then they'll say, because I'm busy or tired or distracted or my kids are getting in the way. But the real reason
Speaker3: [00:02:39] Is pretty simple. We don't commit to exercise.
Speaker2: [00:02:46] And if you truly want to make yourself
Speaker3: [00:02:49] Stronger or healthier or fitter
Speaker2: [00:02:52] Or more successful and anything, we've got to stay committed and overcome those obstacles are those barriers that are holding
Speaker3: [00:03:01] You back. So today I am talking to my personal trainer,
Speaker2: [00:03:07] Vanessa Grigore, who is owner of Studio Fitness in Fishers, Indiana. And she and I have been working
Speaker3: [00:03:16] Out with her for almost 15
Speaker2: [00:03:18] Years or maybe even more than 15 years. And she is one reason that I am able to stay in a routine. But there's also lots of other reasons. And she and I talk about that. We talk about what it takes to make exercise part of your routine. We talk about that it is more than just showing up. It is a lot to do with what you're thinking. It's really was an interesting conversation for me. Also, it was super fun because I know Vanessa pretty well, so. If you're someone that says I need to stay in a routine, I need to get into routine, whatever that is, this episode is for you because this is something that comes up over and over and over again when I am talking to my clients about their goals. So sit back, buckle up and listen in to my conversation with Vanessa.
Speaker3: [00:04:16] So I am Vanessa Gregor. I go by the nickname S. that was kind of created in high school and it was Venis by my ex-boyfriend. And then my husband turned it into NES and he actually has my name tattooed on his right arm. And yeah. So anyway, that nickname kind of stuck. And I'm from the Netherlands, originally born and raised and came to the United States twice. I came here when I was 20 and then we came back at twenty two first time, just didn't work out, came back to the Netherlands for immigration reasons and then came back here a second time and stayed. Been here almost 20 years. Being a personal trainer, really grown through education, learned a lot when I started my training career and Bally Total Fitness back in two thousand and three, I had a mentor that really, really helped me out her step that she kind of gave me a strong foundation to then grow on and build upon. That's kind of where I found what really strikes me, what really what my strengths are. And out of that, I grew a over the years through a personal training studio. And here we are, Studio Fitness. There you are in your own building. OK, so 20 years ago when you were at Bally Total Fitness, like what made you say, hey, I want to be a personal trainer? So I was a bartender for a long time, bartender, waitress.
Speaker3: [00:05:46] And I realized that in that profession, you, to a degree don't help people up. You're dealing with people and you help them down. That's how I visualize. Interesting. So I knew I wanted to make a change and help people up. And I've always been into sports, always been into fitness. That's just always been a passion. It's always been an outlet for me. That's kind of where the whole idea of becoming a personal trainer came from. I didn't want to be a part bartender anymore and help people down. I wanted to train people physically, mentally and help people up, be positive, possibly change lives around both physically, but as well as mentally, because the two really go hand-in-hand. Yeah, so I find just me being your client, which I think I was thinking about this this morning as I was driving home. So I already saw Vanessa today. All these people that are listening, we're recording this and it's almost 3:00 in the afternoon. But I did see her at six, fifteen a.m. this morning. So as I was driving home, I was thinking about when I first met you, which I think was probably fifteen years ago, because I think my daughter probably or maybe even sixteen years ago, because she was probably one and a half maybe. And I have found that for myself, like the physical fitness piece. Is one part, but then the mental fitness, as it ties to the physical fitness or the mental health are constant as it ties to the physical fitness is just as important in a strange sort of way.
Speaker3: [00:07:24] Right. I thought I was also trying to think back when I first met you, Rebecca was a baby, and I'm going to guess in my brain was something like I need to get back in shape. I don't know. But that's what I'm guessing. So I probably was in it more for, like, hey, let me get back in shape physically. But over time, I literally realized that it's mental fitness as well. So what do you do that science or what do you see? So you see that a lot because you realize how mental it is when people open up, when you start moving, especially in a setting like this, a private studio where it's not a gym, it it evokes feelings, it evokes emotions. And when you have a rapport with your trainer, you get to share certain things and some people share more than others. Don't take me wrong. Some people are very introverted. Others are definitely more extroverted. But you nonetheless, even when you keep it inside, you can still give it a place, be it dumping it at the studio through your sweat or dumping it through actual communication. But it's still fitness allows. It gives it gives an opportunity to dump some of your stuff. So, yeah, it goes it's very much goes hand in hand.
Speaker3: [00:08:36] The one evokes the other. I think it goes both ways. I gives you an example. If you come in in a real pissy mood, you're grumpy, your trainer will feel that. We feel that here because it's so close, so close knit, your trainer can kind of guide you through your movements and through that and through your way of thinking and hopefully send you away with just a more positive mindset, but also just feeling better. If you come in super happy, know your trainer will feed off of that. Yeah, you'll probably feel even better or more euphoric after workout seldomly. I very often ask my clients, how do you so how do you feel I was that I cannot ever remember a client saying, oh my God, I feel horrible, you know what I mean? That's just not an answer you get. People always feel better after movement, and I think they definitely feel better moving their worries away. That's how you move it away. Yes. I think sometimes when I go in there and definitely I'm tired since it's six a.m., but I never leave. I may feel like you did your job and I had a great workout. I'm tired in that sense, but but it's also has brought energy to the surface, which maybe was still sleeping. And I think in the mornings you get those clients that are extremely tired, but then they kind of have a renewed energy when they write.
Speaker3: [00:10:01] It's like, OK, I was really tired. What exactly did exactly your evening and afternoon clients is often similar, but the opposite. They come in kind of already drained. Their brain is drained, their bodies are drained from a long day of work or with the kids or whatever. And then your workout kind of again gives them renewed energy, which they're going to shut down. But nonetheless, it's always a renewed energy, even though your clients kind of show up with a different energy at the time. But nonetheless, you try to pump positivity. That's what it's about. You pump positivity back into someone, because that's really what this is about. You can you can you can do ten push ups. If you if you don't believe you can, you have to be sure you can best through. My legs will be straight one day. I love that they will be they will when I will make my making straight when I walk. But when I look at my back and I put my legs up there no straight. But they're getting there. All right. So that's actually good Segway into talk to me about goals like what do you find when people say do they usually have a goal if they do have a goal? Because that's a big thing. And fitness, a lot of times people have like this goal in mind.
Speaker3: [00:11:13] But what do you how do they get there? I kind of see a goal and I say this based on my experience as a very loose moving object, if you will, and almost like a bubble lately. It's almost like a bubble. And the goal is inside the bubble. It's like a soap bubble and it moves around. It's never solidified in its place. It is movable. And sometimes that bubble pops and you have to come up with another one. And that's OK. You know, to give a great example of myself, I worked out with my trainer, Matt Dugan, for ten plus years. Love this workouts. And just through circumstances that ended last year through Colvert and I had to find a different way to put workouts in my routine. I knew I didn't want to put the same amount of time with the workouts were very expensive, but I knew I needed and wanted to move because as for as long as I've been alive, pretty much I've been moving, working out, moving, enjoying movement and leading it. So my bubble for ten years that was floating around at work suddenly was pop. Right? I wasn't doing anything, but I knew I had to create a new bubble for myself. And so I did that. Now I'm kayaking with my puppies. I am walking a lot with my dogs, if not with my dogs, with friends.
Speaker3: [00:12:34] Now I'm actually combining my movement with communication and emotional support with my buddies, so actually connecting with my friends. So I found a different way of putting exercise back into my time without having to spend ten to twelve hours a week on it. Yes. So this opens up time to now be with my family, to cook, to do other things besides working a full time job and running a personal training studio. So and it's OK. It just means change and change is part of life. It's just a matter of if that happens, how do I you want to have that? There should always be a bubble floating around in your room. So if there's no bubble, that means your goals. But it doesn't have to mean that that same bubble. Is always that same bubble change, so we need to be open to that. I see that all the time. So people say so I'm obviously helping them set goals in their personal life or their business professional life. And sometimes they get so stuck on they get stuck on the goal that they're missing out on the opportunity to potentially change it or tweak it. And there's nothing wrong with that. But then they think if they've changed it, they failed. It's like equals fail. But that's not always true, right? That's very true. And I sometimes say, like, well, what's what's the worst thing that can happen if we change the goal? And then thing is, nothing can happen if we like.
Speaker3: [00:14:01] It's not to say that you failed. It's just different. So you flow with it, right? Life is over. That's right. You've got a flat one of my favorite sayings that my husband and I say all the time, life is what happens to you while you make different plans. Yeah, that's. So you plan all kinds of things. And then life happens and you look back and you're like, well, I didn't get to do that. And I wanted to do that because that book. But that's life and the beauty of life to it, if you can if you can look at it that way. So kind of coming back to what you're saying, is that a failure that you live and that. Oh, no, but it's how you it's also how you approach that. Right? Like, I think sometimes you see people, they're injured or something happens in their life that they're not able to move the way they want to get to at a certain time. I see people look at their work situation changes or they're all of a sudden given a different project and they can't they can't go after the one they thought like nothing's gone wrong. It's just something changed. And you also said that was interesting to me. You said when you had to change your own workout routine, you thought, OK, how can I integrate movement that doesn't take up as much time as potentially it was.
Speaker3: [00:15:16] That is something else, because a lot of times people think if I change, it's going to mean more time or more energy or more whatever. Right. And it doesn't have to be. It's very true. And that's it's a good point that you bring up, because many people come in, they're like, how much do I have to work out? I have to work out five days a week, six days a week. And so, like, no, it doesn't have to look that way. But we put so much pressure on ourselves as a society, but also as humans. We just put a lot. And I think sometimes we have to do that. And when you go out of business, sometimes you have to have deadlines because that also helps you get things done. But you also have to be able to flow and flow with, oh, I didn't get that done today. I didn't have time. OK, no problem. I can do that tomorrow. So I'm going to dedicate twenty minutes. I have a little hole. I'm going to fix what I couldn't do today. I'm kind of done. Relax, take a bath, go to bed and it'll be fine. Right. But it takes a little bit of planning and I say exercise is the same. You plan it into your routine, you write it in your, in your organizer.
Speaker3: [00:16:17] My workouts. I wrote down DSB. It was part of mine. Now I write down in my organizer, Mabel Kyak, my dog and I are going to go kayaking. It's and so if I have a client that's like I can we know after work I'm going to go kayaking with my dog. I have an appointment with myself so. No sorry. Right. Right. Yeah. Something that I had to learn I, I haven't always been like that. I was that girl also that worked from five thirty in the morning till seven, six thirty seven at night. So you learn it's something when I hire trainers that's one of the things I tell them. When you're first starting and you're young, you should be putting a lot of time and effort, especially if you're wanting to open up your own business, which trainers do here expect to be super busy and expect to work mornings, go home, come back in the afternoons, go home, come back in the evening. You put that effort into it. Now, the goal eventually is after a while, after you've become more established and you build up your name, but you can start reducing your hours, you can tweak it a little bit because you've worked towards that, but you can't walk into anything. I always say you can't start at the bottom of the ladder and wanting to be on the top with one one.
Speaker3: [00:17:29] So yeah, it doesn't work that way. You step out the ladders and their little steps, you have to be willing to take each and to many people don't see it that way. It's like the ladder next to this process. You don't go from zero to one hundred, you go from zero to 10, from ten to twenty. And that's the case in life. It's the case business to business. In any kind of organization, you know, you can put on a Monday, put twenty projects on your calendar and expect you to do all of them in one day. It's unrealistic. I just had an expectation this morning with someone. They're like, we're not attitude. I'm always behind. I'm always behind the wheel. What are your expectations of yourself in any given day? And I think what they kind of see is a lot of people like. To make lists, right, I mean, we all like lists, but if they don't cross everything, they're not making the list or what can I do today? They're just making the list for what can I do or do I need to do forever? Almost. That's right. So they're not going to get it all done, right? They're not going to. So what can you what if you stop making the list forever and just made a list for today of like the top three things? And I always say do three things, but break it down, break it down.
Speaker3: [00:18:45] And that's the same with exercise, the expectation. You speak of goals, clients come in and I can speak for many of them, the goals are unrealistic. So as a trainer, we first and foremost try to work with your clients to make goals a little bit more realistic. And there comes the mental part right now. It's why do you want to look like you did when you were 16? Why and then is that really reasonable? No, no. You're now in your 50. So I'm just giving an example, but it's not going to work. So let's get rid of that picture of when you were 16. Let's take that stick in your back pocket, revisit it as often as you want. So that was the best. Now you are in your 50s. You're going through menopause. We've got all kinds of changes physiologically, mentally, sleep, eating. So and you've been through Lord knows what kind of diet you've been on throughout your life, how your sleep has been stressed. You've been all affect where we are now. Let's look at where you are, where you're trying to go and why. Why are you what you know that the Y is important. Like, there's it's so cliche like to lie behind it, but it really is important because it also can sort of serve as a vision and if it's been a vision, can kind of create a mental image of where you want to go.
Speaker3: [00:20:09] And that's what kind of can keep you going. What do you find? I think I know you're gonna say, but I'm curious. So someone has let's say it's a reasonable goal. Let's say it's not to look like you're sixteen when you're fifty, let's say to such a broad sample, but let's say something reasonable, OK, what gets in their way? What is going to get in their way of achieving it? What do you think the most common thing that gets in their way of achieving a very considered reasonable. What do you think? What do they. I think it's their mindset and I think it's busy. So it's their way of thinking. And it's people love to be busy, which in of itself is a mindset. I want you to know. Think that's true. That's true. You're very right. Because you believe that, right? Because you're busy, you can't do certain things. Yeah. And this comes back to the planning. So I think it's attitude. Attitude is a lot in it. Yeah. They get it. They get in their own way. Right. In their own way. Which is like being that busy, like feeling that or thinking that they're busy is getting in their own way. Right. That's true in mindset. You're absolutely right. There's no way my legs are ever going to be straight like that. Could get in my way too. This is very true.
Speaker3: [00:21:23] You're absolutely right. The other that's a very valid point. Do you ever people are kind of almost scared of success, too, in a straight in a like. Well, what if what if I get to this point and I actually reach the goal, then what what's going to happen? Right. So almost like that fear of success or fear of failing like that, I want to try because what if they fail? So fear play even including myself? I think we're very fear driven as a society. Yeah. Yeah. And you're absolutely right. That can go both ways. But we're very fear driven for sure. And I always say we have these emotions for a reason. We just have to use them wisely. Fear can turn into stress, fear can turn into anger, but fear can also make us do things that otherwise we wouldn't do. So, yeah, that's interesting, too, because I think sometimes people who and I'm sure this happens to like they've thought about using a personal trainer, hiring a personal trainer, they may have even talked to you, but it's like maybe not the right time when the kids go back to school or when whatever at the time. So if that happens to me, too late. But always I always think, like, well, you reached out for a reason to begin with. So anyway. But then their brain starts going to places when they're feeling start to come to the surface and then they feel nervous, uncomfortable stress or whatever.
Speaker3: [00:22:46] They get to be a feeling that actually triggers you into action to say, yes, I am committed to the goal or yes, I want to come see twice a week or yes, I am doing this right. There has to be some feeling that comes to the surface to make that all happen, because your feelings can take you the other way, too, and take you away from the goal or saying this isn't the right time or whatever. Yeah, yeah. And that we we almost as trainers sometimes joke. You probably have. In your profession, they come when they're ready, but unfortunately, we wish sometimes people would come even when they're not ready. Well, that yes, I don't know how you ever are you ever really ready? Right. That's another whole question. What does that even mean? Being ready? I don't even I think I think the very first I think being ready is actually showing up. So, yes, not just saying it, but showing up. Yeah, that's right. So those people that talk about one, I've always wanted a trainer. I want to do this. I want to do that. But it stays with that. Now, take the step. Take the lead. You have to be very bleep ready to commit. That's what I think of the first vodcast. I, I think if you go back to podcast one, I think it's about commitment.
Speaker3: [00:24:01] But that was. That's what it is, that is really the currency of success, like committing showing up. Showing up and not having so many things on your calendar that it becomes impossible for you to show, I know that you get to have people overextend themselves. They want to do everything. So they say yes to everything. Hiring a trainer. I have a private I have someone helping me with this. I got this appointment. I'm running a business. I've got my kids. They're doing too much. And so at the end of the day, something has to give. There are simply not enough hours in the day. And so things start falling off. They can't. And that's the same as having that long list of unrealistic goals or break it down. What are you committing to like? What are you willing out of this long list to commit to? There you go. But it can be everything. Sometimes you have to say now it's going to be my health and my fitness and I'm going to focus on this part of my business and then let it be. And then now I'm going to focus again, even that you can break down and break that down in your eye. For instance, do a hiring promotion twice a year. And I'm not going to stress myself out 12 months out of the year. I do it twice and I focus on that twice, put my energy into it and then be done with it, move on.
Speaker3: [00:25:18] So it seems to work on these new trainers when you're hiring new. And a lot of them are new business owners in a sense, too, right. They're they're starting their own personal training business. What do you think their biggest hurdles are or what are you because you really kind of coaching them through creating their own personal training, business confidence in what? What do you think? Confidence in themselves, in themselves, what you said earlier, stand in their own way. And they foresee that that's their biggest obstacle. Their biggest obstacle becomes them. Right. And that's what I see. It's I think so that but also fear, I guess, the fear of what if I fail? What if this doesn't work? What if I don't get any clients? What if I can't I can promote myself on Instagram. What if and it's they have to get out of the comfort zone and that's tough. Nobody really likes that. It's part of it. And but the cool thing is and this is what I explain when you go through that uncomfortable point, you come out of it and it's a good feeling coming out of it. Think of your work when you hustle through it. It's just hard and you're done. Well, I did it. I feel good. It was hard. I struggle, but that's being uncomfortable.
Speaker3: [00:26:36] But even with something like a podcast, you probably the first one you did, you were probably nervous. You all good, right? Uncomfortable a little bit. But that's OK. That's how we grow. And so you do your first one cycle. I made it. It wasn't so bad. But you take out little things like I can learn this, I can do this better next time. I'll change that. So you grow up. And that's that's what I explain here. Don't expect to again go from zero to one hundred. So it's interesting, like going from zero to one hundred in there as a new business owner, that's not going to happen. And you have to go through that. Right. It's not going to happen to in a physical fitness kind of goal like you're not going to through all of a sudden, I don't know, you're only lifting ten pounds tomorrow. You're not going to list with fifty. That's not going to happen. Right. And then I think sometimes when I see it as I'm coaching people through there, kind of I call it like that work, it's like everything's not going to change tomorrow just because we talked about this today. It's not going to change tomorrow. It's going to be a gradual process of these kind of retraining the way you're doing things and thinking about things. So. All three of those are kind of a you have to go through that discomfort in order to get the reward at the at the end and build confidence.
Speaker3: [00:27:46] Right. So at all times, actually, I think most confidence is found in failing and getting back up and have getting back up face superimportant. That is because you have it in you to pick yourself back up and go for it again. That is that takes confidence. That takes strength. There's fear involved. But yes, you do it through your fear. So feeling is good. I can see that you have had some minor injuries and I've seen, like, those going like having to read. Reevaluate things, relearn things. I mean, it's been kind of that scenario, too, of how and I never really felt like I'm getting old. I never felt like this. But, you know, you handled that very well. And this is one of the things you sought help in the right spot. Right. That is very smart. You have the resources they got. Not everybody knows what to do now. You know what to do. So you have those resources, right? But you nip it in the bud. You did what you had to do with it. You still showed up for your workouts. So that is commitment. That's essentially your practicing what you preach to people. You say, hey, we got to be committed. I can say of you, you are one of my committed clients. You show up, you don't cancel. It's not who I was seldomly.
Speaker3: [00:29:09] You show up, you're one that's I can't sleep in the middle of the night. Then I can't sell them. But you are one of those. So you practice what you preach then. This is true, but it doesn't happen very often. But you're also going through some changes as I am as everybody. Right, right. Right. So who is your best client? My best client is a client that's willing to learn a client that's wanting to change the client that. Is able to flow with the workouts and it's just the client that's willing OK? Yeah, that's actually that's what I always say. They have to be willing to put the work in because you can't do the work for them. You can't work for them right now. Naw, naw, I don't. And we talked about this a little bit this morning, but nor should we have to. We are motivators, but I can only do so much. And I'm learning that I'm learning to step back and say, OK, this is my role, but this is your role and we're a team. So the moment you start failing to do your part, it changes my part, too. I cannot start. Doing your part to exactly right. I can't and I used to be a trainer that would try I put the responsibility in my client as well. We're a team. So as I'm working hard to try and help you through your injuries and design these workouts and work with your changes, you have to do the same.
Speaker3: [00:30:37] Yeah, it's you have to be willing. That's exactly how I think about my clients, too. Like, I can't do it for you. I can't I can't want it more than you. First of all. And if you're not kind of I don't want to say doing the work, sometimes they say that. I don't think that's the best way to say it. I think if you're not wanting, I can't put in more effort than you can have to be kind of an equal effort scenario. Yep, yep, yeah, and yeah, it needs to it needs to be balanced sometimes the May tip a little bit to one side and a little bit to the other, but ultimately, yes, it's a team effort. And I'm not willing to let them fall to the grand scale, though. When someone feels I get the sense like they're falling, falling, falling in there, I am willing to go reach and try to pick them up. Absolutely. But if that if I can't, then I can't. And that's OK, because it's funny that you say that one of my one of the ways I put it, when someone is going through a hardship friend, client, family, I would say my hand, I'm here for you. My hand is out there. Do you have to grab it? Yeah. And is there is there for the taking, but the ball is in your court.
Speaker3: [00:31:52] You have to be willing to grab my hand so I can help you. If you don't, that's fine. But that's on you. It's not for a lack of me wanting to be there to support you and to help you up, but you have to grab my hand. That's so again. So you can reach out to someone with someone who really has to. All right, I'm ready to be hoisted up and let's go. Let's let's tackle this. So what's your best piece of advice? Best piece of advice. I know I wrote this down, of course. But you know what? OK, so I do my podcast. I love that. I guess. Now, I asked my guest to fill a questionnaire. So, Vanessa, fill this out. This is what she wrote. She wrote, Don't follow a rule book that has been created by someone else as to how you should live your life or move your body. Instead, follow your gut instinct and move with it. Cast away fear and just do it. Be your own someone else. I like that. Be around someone else. That's right. Yeah. Is someone always someone else can't create it for you. You have to be around someone else and create it for yourself. Yeah. And stay true to that where it's easy to go to be all your friends talking about certain things that they do.
Speaker3: [00:33:06] Do it for you. Do it because you want to do it, make change even if it looks differently than the norm. Right. Whatever that is. Behnam, whatever, whatever, you wrote a wonderful piece I was really that was put together so well about not everybody's going to like you and I love that the way you wrote that, that just resonated with me. That could have been something I wrote. But those were my words. And it's OK. It's OK. OK, your people will find you. Your tribe will find you will be attractive to you. And those that are not, it's fine. They'll find someone else that they're attracted to and there's plenty to go around. But I like that. And that's kind of what I mean with the rule book as well. Don't be so hard on yourself. Let go a little bit. Write your own will. Write your own story. Write your own story. This is super fun. So thank you. Enjoy being on the podcast. I appreciate you so much. And I like 15 years. I took a little. Hiatus because you moved and whatever, and I moved, but I came back, so thank God you did. And I want to say you've become my family, so I'm beyond grateful to know you, your husband, your kids, your dogs. Yeah. Thank you for your good people. So thank you for having me. We appreciate you. We all, as Lauren Sommer in Denver, appreciate you. I love it.
Speaker2: [00:34:34] So what do you think about that? It really does come down to commitment, we get in our own way
Speaker3: [00:34:41] When it comes to creating habits around anything. And what did you think about being able to change your goal and not freaking out about it? Do we have to be stuck to one goal or can we be flexible? Can we follow like
Speaker2: [00:34:57] Vanessa said so? I urge you to reach out to her, her info is in the show notes and to follow her on Instagram because she posts some really cool stuff. And if you want to talk about how to make exercise part of your
Speaker3: [00:35:17] Daily life, I would be happy to chat about it because it's one of my favorite topics. It's one of the things that I think really keeps me going
Speaker2: [00:35:25] And is an ingredient in my own success personally and professionally. All right, my friends, until next week, remember, there's always an opportunity to level up and there is no better time than now facing.
Speaker1: [00:35:48] Thanks for tuning in to today's show, if you're ready to commit to personal and professional growth, move forward, make money and manage life. Head to Andrea Libros Dotcom. That's a and a l i e b r o. S s dotcom to find out about the ways we can work together until next time, go Leblon.
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