How Do You Want to Live Your Life?

Two Ways to Go

It’s 2019. It has arrived. Have you decided how you are going to live your life in 2019? As I explained to my kids last week, as I see it, there are two ways to go. You can live your life:

  1. By default
  2. On purpose – deliberately

There is that word “purpose”. There is a lot of talk out there about having a sense of purpose and being purposeful. But what does that really mean?

According to Webster, purpose is “the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.” So when you live on purpose, you set higher standards for your life, than just “seeing what happens.” You create a reason behind all of your actions. And those actions get you from here to there.

So how does this all happen? You need to change your thinking, in order to live a purposeful life.

Doubt, Fear, Confusion

When you live deliberately, you are out of your comfort zone. You are often in a state of doubt, fear or confusion. And that means you are doing it right.

Being purposeful requires you to seek growth. Growth goes against your brain’s state of comfort; you are uncomfortable. And it requires you to take massive action, and expend effort wisely.

When you live by default, you increasingly accept states of weaknesses and stagnation and deem it “normal.” But only you can decide what your standards are for your life.

Don’t Settle

Are you living someone else’s standards or ideas? Are you settling? If you haven’t made a conscious decision on how to you approach 2019, where you want to go and what to expect from yourself and this year, then the answer to that question is most likely “yes.”

Only you can decide is that is the answer you want. But why are you settling?

Being purposeful and being deliberate are commitments. You are committed to:

  1. Embracing discomfort
  2. Expending massive effort wisely

My teenagers are constantly put into a state of discomfort, without any effort. It seems like that should be Webster’s definition of teenager. But as an adult, you often have to push yourself. You have to tap into your courage to overcome the discomfort and to continue the action. But each time you do this, you get better at it and you grow. On purpose. I promise.

You are amazing. Go do amazing things. I am here to help.

Share which way you are choosing to live your life in the comments below.

Andrea Liebross

I'm Andrea. I'm a Possibilities Coach. Many professionals are innately unapologetically ambitious. But roadblocks such as day to day responsibilities and fear hold them back. I coach them to find the clarity and confidence they need to move past these obstacles so that they can advance in their career AND show up at work and at home at 100%. Visit me at to chat and schedule your complimentary Discovery Session.

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